[Trending] 36 Questions That Lead To Love, Or Strengthen The Bond With Your Significant Other

What is love? (Baby don’t hurt me). It’s pretty much an unanswerable question, one that humans have been asking themselves since the dawn of...

What is love? (Baby don’t hurt me). It’s pretty much an unanswerable question, one that humans have been asking themselves since the dawn of time. Sure, there are scientific and physiological explanations involving chemical and hormonal interactions in our brains and bodies, but that hardly appeals to our romantic sides when trying to make sense of our complex emotions. 

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So what to do when faced with feelings that might or might not equate to ‘love?’ To Fall in Love With Anyone, Do This; an article in the ‘Modern Love’ section of the New York Times, went viral back in 2015. It reintroduced to the world a study made in the 1990s by the psychologist Arthur Aron, which investigated intimacy levels between two total strangers. He and his team wanted to know if feelings of closeness could be triggered by having them ask and answer specific questions, 36 of them to be precise. The questions are separated into 3 sets, each more in-depth than the last, and are designed to reveal people’s true character, including their fears and insecurities. The trust involved in sharing mutual vulnerability is believed to foster a strong personal bond. The exercise is then topped off with staring into each other’s eyes for 4 minutes, itself quite a searching and intense experience!

Would you try this with your partner? Or a stranger that you might feel could be an interesting proposition? We all crave feelings of connection, particularly with our partners. How well do you really know them? Grab a bottle of wine if you are feeling a little shy, a willing participant and share the questions below!

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Set I
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II
13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
17. What is your most treasured memory?
18. What is your most terrible memory?
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
20. What does friendship mean to you?
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling … “
26. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “
27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know.
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.
32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

Here’s how people responded to the interesting experiment

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